Heal With Rabia | Healing After Loss, Single Parenting & Self Growth

Kabhi tumne notice kiya hai — log tumhare aas-paas hote hain,  baatein bhi chal rahi hoti hain,  phir bhi dil ke andar ek khaali sa ehsaas hota hai.  Aur tab tum khud se poochti ho: “Main itni akeli kyun feel kar rahi hoon jab main akeli hoon hi nahi?” Is sawal ka jawab simple nahi hota, kyunki akela mehsoos karna aur akela hona ek jaise nahi hote . 💭 Akela Mehsoos Karna Kahan Se Aata Hai? Akela mehsoos karna tab aata hai jab: tumhara dard samjha nahi jaata tum apni feelings explain karte-karte thak jaati ho tum sunna chahti ho, advice nahi Kabhi-kabhi hum logon ke beech hote hue bhi emotionally unseen feel karte hain.  Aur ye feeling dheere-dheere heavy ban jaati hai. 😔 Akela Hona vs Akela Mehsoos Karna Akela hona ek physical state hoti hai. Tum room me akeli ho sakti ho, aur phir bhi peaceful feel kar sakti ho. Akela mehsoos karna ek emotional state hoti hai. Tum bheed me bhi ho sakti ho, aur phir bhi disconne...

  Hum aksar zindagi ko ek project ki tarah treat karne lagte hain. Sab kuch fix karna hai. Sab answers dhoondhne hain. Sab confusion khatam karni hai. Aur jab aisa nahi hota, to hum khud se hi disappointed ho jaate hain.  Par ek sach hai jo hum kam sunte hain: Har cheez ko theek karna zaroori nahi hota. Kabhi-kabhi sirf theek rehna hi kaafi hota hai. 💭 Fix Karne Ki Aadath Kahan Se Aati Hai? Bachpan se humein sikhaya jaata hai: problem aaye to solution nikaalo weakness dikhe to sudhaaro pain ho to use khatam karo Lekin emotional pain maths ka question nahi hota. Na hi life hamesha checklist par chalti hai. Kuch feelings aisi hoti hain: jinhe samajhne me time lagta hai jinhe force se solve nahi kiya ja sakta aur jinhe bas space chahiye hota hai 😔 Jab Sab Theek Karne Ki Koshish Thaka Deti Hai Tum har din try karti ho: khud ko positive rakhne ki zyada na sochne ki strong rehne ki Aur phir bhi kuch din aise ho...

  Hum aksar achievements ko bahut narrow tareeke se dekhte hain. Promotion, success, milestones, results.  Lekin zindagi ke kuch phases aise hote hain jahan  sirf khud ko sambhaal paana hi sabse badi achievement hoti hai. Agar aaj tum: apna din nikaal paayi ho khud ko completely tootne se bachaa paayi ho aur phir bhi khud se ye keh rahi ho “main try kar rahi hoon” to tum fail nahi ho. Tum achieve kar rahi ho . 💭 Sambhalna Kyun Itna Mushkil Ho Jaata Hai? Kyunki jab dard long-term ho jaata hai, to wo sirf emotions tak simit nahi rehta.  Wo: routine me ghus jaata hai confidence ko quietly kha jaata hai aur self-trust ko dheere-dheere kam kar deta hai Tum khud ko bolti ho: “Main pehle jaise kyun nahi reh pa rahi?” “Sab manage karna itna mushkil kyun lag raha hai?” Sach ye hai: Tum weak nahi hui ho. Tum overloaded ho. 😔 Jab Sambhalna Bhi Effort Maangta Hai Kuch logon ke liye sambhalna automatic hota hai. Aur kuch l...

Kuch dard aise hote hain  jo zindagi ko do hissón me baant dete hain —  before aur after . Before, jab sab normal lagta tha.  After, jab sab kuch wahi rehkar bhi badal jaata hai. Aur sabse confusing baat ye hoti hai ki  dard ke baad bhi zindagi rukti nahi.  Subah hoti hai.  Log kaam par jaate hain.  Responsibilities chalti rehti hain.  Aur tum khud se poochti ho: “Mera dard itna bada hai, phir bhi duniya kaise chal rahi hai?” (Mei bhi aksar khud se poochhti hu) 💭 Jab Dard Personal Ho Aur Duniya Normal Jab dard personal hota hai,  to duniya ka normal rehna cruel lagta hai.  Tumhein lagta hai: # log hans kaise rahe hain # festivals kaise aa rahe hain # time kaise aage badh raha hai Aur is thought ke saath ek guilt bhi aata hai —  “Shayad mujhe bhi aage badhna chahiye.” Par aage badhne aur theek hone me farq hota hai. 😔 Zindagi Chalti Rehne Ka Matlab Ye Nahi Ki Tum Theek Ho Bahut baar log tumhein dekh kar assume kar lete hain: ...

Kabhi-kabhi thakaan sirf body me nahi hoti.  Kabhi-kabhi thakaan aisi hoti hai jo:  sone ke baad bhi nahi jaati,  weekend se bhi theek nahi hoti,  aur kisi medicine se bhi cure nahi hoti..... Aisi thakaan andar ki hoti hai. Agar aaj tum bas itna mehsoos kar rahi ho ki  “main aur nahi kar pa rahi”,  to pehle ye jaan lo: 👉 Tum lazy nahi ho. 👉  Tum weak nahi ho. 👉  Tum bas thak chuki ho. 💭 Ye Thakaan Aati Kahan Se Hai? Ye thakaan ek din me nahi aati.  Ye dheere-dheere jamma hoti hai:  roz strong bane rehne se,  apni feelings ko side me rakhne se,  har situation me adjust karte rehne se,  aur har kisi ke liye available rehne se.... Tum kaam karti ho, ghar sambhalti ho, logon se baat karti ho —  lekin khud ke liye koi off button nahi hota.  Aur ek din mann quietly keh deta hai: “Bas.” 😔 Jab Thakaan Guilt Ban Jaati Hai Sabse mushkil tab hota hai jab thakne ke baad bhi tum khud ko blame karti ho.  “Main itni ...

  Single parenting sirf ek situation nahi hoti, ye ek daily emotional test hota hai. Har din tum apne bachche ke liye strong banna chahti ho, lekin har raat jab sab chup ho jaata hai, to mann me ek hi sawaal ghoomta hai: “Kya main kaafi hoon?” Ye sawaal kisi failure ka sign nahi hai. Ye sawaal ek responsible parent ke dil se nikalta hai. 💭 Single Parenting Me Guilt Kahan Se Aata Hai? Guilt aksar un jagahon se aata hai jahan: tum apne bachche ko “complete family” nahi de pa rahi tum thak jaati ho aur patience kam ho jaata hai tumhara bachcha kisi aur ko miss karta hai Tum khud se kehne lagti ho: “Shayad main aur achha kar sakti thi” “Mere bachche ko meri wajah se struggle karna pad raha hai” Lekin sach ye hai: tum situation choose nahi karti, tum usme best karti ho. 😔 Guilt Ko Carry Karna Tumhe Aur Thaka Deta Hai Single parents already: double responsibility utha rahe hote hain emotionally alert rehte hain financially aur mentally stre...

Zindagi ka ek sabse heavy sach ye hota hai ki  kabhi-kabhi hum bheed ke beech hote hue bhi akele hote hain.  Log aas-paas hote hain,  baatein bhi hoti hain, lekin dil ke andar jo chal raha hota hai — uske liye koi space nahi hota. Aur tab ek sawaal ubharta hai: “Jab koi samajhne wala na ho, to main kya karun?” Is sawal ka jawab bahar nahi milta. Ye dheere-dheere andar se aata hai . 💭 Samajhna Kyun Zaroori Lagta Hai? Hum sab chahte hain ki: koi bina bole samajh le koi pooche “tum theek ho?” koi bole “tum akeli nahi ho” Lekin har baar aisa nahi hota. Kabhi-kabhi log khud itne busy hote hain ki wo humare dard ko dekh hi nahi paate.  Aur ye baat maan lena mushkil hota hai. 😔 Jab Expectations Dard Ban Jaati Hain Hum aksar ye expect kar lete hain ki: jo humein pyaar karta hai, wo samjhega jo paas hai, wo sunega Lekin jab aisa nahi hota, to disappointment ke saath-saath self-doubt bhi aa jaata hai. “Shayad main zyada expect karti hoon.” ...

Bahut baar jab hum “healing” word sunte hain, to hum imagine kar lete hain ek aisi state jahan: dard khatam ho chuka ho aansu aana band ho gaye ho aur hum bilkul normal ho gaye ho Lekin sach ye hai ki healing kabhi bhi itni simple nahi hoti . Agar aaj bhi tum ro padti ho, agar aaj bhi kuch yaadein tumhara dil bhaari kar deti hain, to iska matlab ye nahi ki tum piche ja rahi ho.  Iska matlab sirf ye hai ki tum insaan ho . 💧 Rona Kamzori Kyun Samjha Jaata Hai? Humein bachpan se sikhaya jaata hai: “Zyada mat ro.” “Ab strong ban jao.” “Kitna time ho gaya, ab bhi?” Dheere-dheere hum ye maan lete hain ki: Rona = kamzori Chup rehna = strength Aur isi soch ke chakkar me hum apne emotions ko daba dete hain.  Par jo emotions dab jaate hain, wo khatam nahi hote — wo andar hi andar bhaar ban jaate hain . 🌱 Healing Ka Real Matlab Healing ka matlab ye nahi hota ki tum kabhi dukhi nahi hogi. Healing ka matlab hota hai: tum apne emotions se bhaagti ...