Chapter 9: The Questions She Didn’t Know How to Answer
Kabir was growing faster than Neha had expected. Every few months his shoes felt tighter. His school trousers seemed shorter and his questions were becoming more thoughtful. Less about toys and cartoons. More about growing up.
One Sunday evening, soft rain tapped gently against the window. The room smelled of freshly washed clothes. Neha sat on the bed folding towels while Kabir stood before the mirror, combing his damp hair after his bath. He tilted his head, studying his reflection.
“Mumma…”
“Haan beta?”
“When do boys become teenagers?”
Neha looked up. For a moment, she simply watched him. His shoulders were still small. His face still carried the innocence of childhood. And yet, time was moving quietly forward.
She placed the folded towel aside and patted the bed beside her. “Come here.”
Kabir sat cross-legged next to her.
“Why are you asking?”
He shrugged. “In school some boys were saying that when we grow up, our voices change and we become taller.”
Neha smiled. “They are right.”
Kabir’s eyes widened. “Really?”
“Haan. It is called puberty.”
“Puberty?”
“Yes. It is a natural stage when children slowly become teenagers.”
Kabir listened carefully. Neha took a deep breath. For weeks she had worried about this conversation. She had searched online late at night, reading articles and wondering whether she would know what to say. Now that the moment had arrived, the words came more naturally than she expected.
🌱 Growing Taller and Stronger
“During puberty, boys usually grow taller very quickly.”
Kabir grinned.
“Good.” Neha laughed. “Your shoulders may become broader and your muscles may become stronger.”
“Like superheroes?”
“Hahaha, might be”
🎤 Voice Changes
“Your voice may start sounding deeper and heavier.”
Kabir lowered his voice dramatically. “Like this?”
Neha laughed. “Maybe not immediately, but yes.”
“And sometimes your voice may suddenly sound high and then low. That is called voice cracking.”
Kabir burst into giggles. “That would be funny.”
“It is and it happens to many boys.”
🌿 Hair Growth
Neha continued gently. “You will also start getting hair under your arms. And hair will grow around your private parts too.”
Kabir immidiately checked his underarms & blinked.
“That is normal?”
“Completely normal.”
🧴 Sweating and Hygiene
“You may start sweating more, and your body may have a stronger smell.”
Kabir wrinkled his nose.
“Even after sports?”
“Especially after sports.”
“So daily bathing, changing underwear and keeping yourself clean becomes even more important.”
Kabir nodded seriously.
😊 Emotional Changes
“Sometimes you may feel angry, confused or emotional without understanding exactly why.”
Kabir frowned, “Without reason?”
“Sometimes, yes. Growing up changes both your body and your emotions.”
🌙 Wet Dreams
Neha paused briefly, then continued in the same calm tone. “As boys grow, they may sometimes wake up and notice a sticky fluid in their underwear.”
Kabir listened quietly.
“This is called a wet dream or nightfall.”
“Will that mean something is wrong?”
“Not at all. It simply means your body is developing normally.”
🤝 Privacy and Respect
Neha placed her hand on his shoulder.
“As your body changes, it becomes even more important to respect your own body and the bodies of others.”
Kabir nodded.
“If you ever feel confused, embarrassed or worried, you can always ask me.”
He looked at her carefully. “You won’t laugh?”
“Never.”
“You won’t get angry?”
“Never.”
“And if you don’t know the answer?”
Neha smiled warmly. “Then we will learn together.”
Kabir leaned against her shoulder. “Growing up sounds strange.” Neha kissed his forehead.
“A little strange, a little exciting and completely natural.”
After a moment, Kabir looked up proudly. “So one day my voice will become deeper, I’ll grow taller, and I’ll have underarm hair?”
Neha laughed. “Yes.”
Kabir smiled. “Then I’m definitely becoming a big boy.”
That night, after Kabir fell asleep, Neha sat beside him in the soft glow of the bedside lamp. For weeks she had been anxious about this conversation. But now she understood something important.
Children do not need perfect explanations. They need a parent who makes them feel safe enough to ask any question.
Sometimes parenting means guiding your child through roads you never imagined walking alone. And sometimes, it means discovering that honesty and love are enough.
And that night, Neha realized that growing up was not only happening to Kabir…
It was happening to her as a mother too.
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